Neurospicy!
Because both my wife and I are neurodiverse, we have researched and invested heavily into assistive technology to help us with our ‘quirky’ natures. We are very lucky to be able to have the luxury to live a lifestyle that both allows, and allows us to afford, these adaptions. A huge percentage of the neurodiverse population are simply not so fortunate - and suffer because of it.
We have put Tile bluetooth trackers on just about every valuable device that ever leaves the house - 26 trackers in total - with both of us being able to track and ring the trackers via our mobile phones. This means we lose a lot less stuff - and also helps us keep valuables secure.
We have a shared todo list system - we use the app ‘Todoist’ and have a collaborative house todolist section. This helps us work asynchronously - for example, if I need to sleep all through the day (which I occasionally do) my wife can get on with her tasks separately as she knows what she has to do. And visa versa - I can work through the night on my tasks.
We have a shared calendar system, using Morgen digital calendar system, Google calendar, calendar apps on our phones, and a Dragontouch wall-mounted calendar in the hall. This allows us to have seperate private calendars and also a shared house calendar with responsibilities and appointments.
I have a digital note-taking system, including an e-ink handwriting tablet, and Joplin notes. I use markdown for everything, and often upload documents to notebooklm.google.com to extract markdown summaries to paste into my notes. I have adopted a notetaking system from the ‘David Allen - Getting Things Done’ template, amongst research from other note-taking books.
Work from home. Wherever possible I work from home, as it allows me to completely customise my entire environment and it’s where I’m at my best and most productive. Also, it allows me to stay healthy - using underdesk treadmill, early morning walks, and means I get to save time on the commute which I can put into my health and wellbeing. Eventually we hope that my wife is also able to find a career allowing her to work from home.
HomeAssistant/smart zigbee buttons. We lean heavily on our HomeAssistant setup to automate as many chores as possible, and we have buttons in each room so that - sometimes - I leave my music running upstairs when I come downstairs, and I can just quickly turn it off before it annoys my wife. Likewise, when I leave the house, I just press a button and it powers down my entire home office and all devices, which saves money. We also have 2 air con units and several fans setup and controlled by buttons - as we find ourselves quickly annoyed when it is too warm or too cold.
We have a smart parcelbox system and CCTV cameras that allow us to not be disturbed by deliveries from Amazon etc - we get a LOT of deliveries as we both don’t drive and don’t own a car. Deliveries can be accomplished without the delivery driver having to ring the doorbell at all, and so we don’t need to interrupt our personal ‘flow state’ to go downstairs to accept the delivery.
Noise is a frequent topic of conversation in our home. We both are easily distracted by noise, one of the reasons we chose to move to the country. We live in a new-build semi-detached house which has very good soundproofing, meaning we never hear our neighbours (and hopefully/presumably they never hear us!). As I used to work for a long time in the music industry, I love working to loud music, and my wife is noise-sensitive, so we have managed to adapt through having rooms we are mostly in during the day at opposite diagonals of the house, and my wife often using headphones and white noise devices (especially when she is sleeping) to make rest and relaxing more viable.